conflation

This is going to be a progresssively developed list of all those things that people conflate - which means: 

• https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Conflation&oldid=1146605147; 
• https://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/definition/english/conflate;
  

So ... here’s my list - and yes, it is a running rant: 

• Mistaking doing what one’s parents taught/favoured/wanted you to do well with ... having thought about a matter - especially anything to do with gender and other stereotypes; 
• One of the major flaws in this world is mistaking “awareness of convenience” for thinking;
  
• Similarly, doing social norms well does NOT mean one has thought about an issue; 
• Confusing feeling sexually attractive with physical comfort - especially clothes, the sexiest of which are often physically uncomfortable, but people are lacking in self awareness and personal honesty, or so afraid of not being attractive, that they will lie to themselves - and then others that they are ... “comfortable”; 
• Thinking - wrongly - that asexual means aromantic, which conflates sex and romance; 
• Neurotypicals (NTs, or allistics, if you prefer) can take things for granted, and thus miss what neurodivergents (NDs) see - making the NTs like fish denying the existence of water ... ;
  
• Smiling does NOT mean one is not being a bigot or otherwise nasty (look up narcissist, psychopath, etc); 
• Not choosing consciously to actively discriminate does NOT mean you are not a bigot (look up systemic discrimination); 
• Abuses of power such as silencing victims is one of the causes of conflating revenge and justice; 
  
• Mistaking gossip for harmless social bonding - it is an act of utter evil; 
• Reinforcing social/business hierarchy is not building cohesion.
  Promoting human rights is not divisive - it is the resistance that is divisive, not the rights nor their promotion; 
• Just because wintry days may look miserable to you does not necessarily mean they are cold (unless there is snow involved).
  Many people have a higher skin temperature under their clothes in winter than in summer because they are conflating their physical “comfort” (sense of warmth, in this case) with their emotional opinion of what they see;
  
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•    <more to come over time ... >  
  

I may, from time to time, add stories which illustrate this problem as well: 

I’ll begin this list of stories with someone I knew decades ago: a ciswoman who I can only describe as being in lust with a male actor was so out of touch with her feelings that she convinced herself it was because he was a better actor … much as some people are so out of touch with their feelings and sensations that, as mentioned above, they convince themselves that physically uncomfortable clothes that they feel sexy in are physically comfortable - which goes beyond cognitive dissonance to lying to oneself and the world no matter what the cost.

   <more to possibly be added>  

See also: 

• [CW] (aspects of) character   (collection of links for reference)

 

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