Thursday 21 December 2023

the evil that is known as fascism

This is another post where I will dump a collection of links for reference purposes: 

from the Internet and other sources: 

   <for other, future posts>  

 

books: 

  •    <for other, future posts>   

 

my major posts:

  •    <for other, future posts>   

 

my other posts:

   <for other, future posts>   


my other “definitions”: 

   <for other, future posts>   

 

 




 

Monday 18 December 2023

spiritual ecosystem

In much the same way that physical existence has a wide range of species (biological diversity) to meet specific needs and enable adaptation to change, so too do the different types of people (neurodivergent, LGBTQIASB+, etc) exist to meet specific spiritual needs and enable continued spiritual evolution. 

This does NOT apply to races, which are a physical aspect, but MAY apply to some cultures. 

It also does not apply to many religions, which are more akin to tools that human use to impact the physical world: as tools evolve over time and older, simplerr, less apt tools are discarded, so too are religions meant to evolve and adapt.

I first mentioned this concept in https://gnwmythr.blogspot.com/2023/12/post-no-2663-autism-and-psychism.html  

See also   spiritual evolution   and   spiritual maturity

 

Note that others use this phrase in a way that is basically Paganism (but without the honesty to admit that): caring for physical ecosystems is a sacred duty, and feeds us spiritually - see, for instance,   https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Spiritual_ecology&oldid=1183952755   and   https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/23311886.2023.2210900   As that concept is better expressed in Paganism and other Indigenous religions (Paganism is the Indigenous religion of Europe), I consider it should be referred using existing terms rather than creating a colonialist (as it ignores the Indigenous religious values which already cover the concept) and grammatically sloppy portmanteau.


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Friday 8 December 2023

(the five) stress responses

Recently my response to a stressful situation showed that the fight-flight-freeze-fawn stress response is missing a fifth descriptor: network & nurture, more commonly known these days as tend & befriend. 
 
The long standing fight or flight description of stress responses was another of the situations where medical research suffered from a male bias - not only in terms of the responses, but also in the limited interpretations of things like genes, which ignored the complexities of human behaviour/social situations (how people are raised, peer influences, media, etc)
 
Subsequently those two options were extended to include freeze or fawn, which is discussed in the links below: 
  • “The Fawn Response: How Trauma Can Lead to People-Pleasing”   https://psychcentral.com/health/fawn-response   “Difficulty saying ‘no,’ fear of saying what you really feel, and denying your own needs — these are all signs of the fawn response”   
However, there other responses identified before the freeze and fawn responses: network and nurture, and tend and befriend. 

In the case of the stressful situation I mentioned, my immediate reaction was to call on the network of allies in the workplace that I have nurtured over the years, and two of those people are doing a sterling (and successful within a day, by the way) job on my behalf - which is and example of network & nurture
 
I have generally considered that tend and befriend was a variation of network and nurture, but definitions tend to vary a bit. For the purposes of this post, which is for my convenience, and does NOT seek to be definitive:
 
  • Network - where the discomforted person seeks to build a group or network (such as old boys clubs, private schools, irrelevant admission criteria in any organisation, groups against LGBTIQ+ people [or some thereof], etc) against the idea they find discomforting; and
  • Nurture - where the discomforted person seeks solace from others who also cling to the idea that is threatened (such as friends, families [especially if the family has a powerful group mind [“egregore”], priests of that religion, etc).
From https://mcleanonline.medium.com/fight-or-flight-196fc1beb89f, which is citing “Biobehavioral responses to stress in females: tend-and-befriend, not fight-or-flight”   https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10941275/:
  • Tending involves nurturant activities designed to protect the self and offspring that promote safety and reduce distress; 
  • befriending is the creation and maintenance of social networks that may aid in this process.
These tend to suggest they are more or less equivalent. 
 
However, whether network and nurture or tend and befriend, when I have talked to people in workplaces who exhibit stereotypical male behaviour (including a couple of ciswomen), they've wrongly thought this was the fawn response - and error which assumes there are only two people in the situations: the source of the threat, and the person being threatened. In actual fact, there are also bystanders and allies - and environment/context. 
 
Hopefully a few decades of less stereotypical male and less binary gendered research will see that fifth stress response come into wide  use. 
 
Following are a few morre links: 

You can find articles from my main blog which touch on stress at:


PS - see also this timely YouTube video:   “Fawning Causes Abusive, Toxic Relationships for Autistic People”   https://youtu.be/Ux8nLBUTUPI?si=T-in60LWaf_Haix3  

PPS - also, from a news post of mine: 


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Monday 20 November 2023

UBI - Universal Basic Income

This is a holding post for links, rather than an attempt to comprehensively analyse the concept (the titles of my posts shown in this colour):  

  • “Early findings from the world’s largest UBI study”   https://www.givedirectly.org/2023-ubi-results/   The two year results included:   “a monthly universal basic income (UBI) empowered recipients and did not create idleness (that has to be a classic US/neoliberal way of thinking)   ...   both a large lump sum and a long-term UBI proved highly effective   ...   a short-term UBI was the least impactful of the designs but still effective   ...   governments should consider changing how they deliver cash aid.”    The summary includes insightful explanations, and the article includes a reasonable overview of what was done. My only criticism of this work is that it doesn’t include assessment of the value of long term low amounts - such as enabling children to pay for report cards (attending the school may be free, but to get a report card may be a cost that poorer people cannot afford, thus limiting future employment opportunities);  
  • "Exploring the practicalities of a basic income pilot"   https://apo.org.au/node/217446   "Insights from around the globe: an international learning report from BIEN 2018 Congress"   


 




 

Saturday 18 November 2023

conflation

This is going to be a progresssively developed list of all those things that people conflate - which means: 

So ... here’s my list - and yes, it is a running rant: 

  • Mistaking doing what one’s parents taught/favoured/wanted you to do well with ... having thought about a matter - especially anything to do with gender and other stereotypes; 
  • One of the major flaws in this world is mistaking awareness of convenience for thinking;
  • Similarly, doing social norms well does NOT mean one has thought about an issue; 
  • Confusing feeling sexually attractive with physical comfort - especially clothes, the sexiest of which are often physically uncomfortable, but people are lacking in self awareness and personal honesty, or so afraid of not being attractive, that they will lie to themselves - and then others that they are ... “comfortable”; 
  • Thinking - wrongly - that asexual means aromantic, which conflates sex and romance; 
  • Neurotypicals (NTs, or allistics, if you prefer) can take things for granted, and thus miss what neurodivergents (NDs) see - making the NTs like fish denying the existence of water ... ;
  • Smiling does NOT mean one is not being a bigot or otherwise nasty (look up narcissist, psychopath, etc)
  • Not choosing consciously to actively discriminate does NOT mean you are not a bigot (look up systemic discrimination)
  • Abuses of power such as silencing victims is one of the causes of conflating revenge and justice; 
  • Mistaking gossip for harmless social bonding - it is an act of utter evil; 
  • Reinforcing social/business hierarchy is not building cohesion.
    Promoting human rights is 
    not divisive - it is the resistance that is divisive, not the rights nor their promotion; 
  • Just because wintry days may look miserable to you does not necessarily mean they are cold (unless there is snow involved).
    Many people have a higher skin temperature under their clothes in winter than in summer because they are conflating their physical “comfort” (sense of warmth, in this case) with their emotional opinion of what they see;

  •    <more to come over time ... >  

I may, from time to time, add stories which illustrate this problem as well: 

I’ll begin this list of stories with someone I knew decades ago: a ciswoman who I can only describe as being in lust with a male actor was so out of touch with her feelings that she convinced herself it was because he was a better actor … much as some people are so out of touch with their feelings and sensations that, as mentioned above, they convince themselves that physically uncomfortable clothes that they feel sexy in are physically comfortable - which goes beyond cognitive dissonance to lying to oneself and the world no matter what the cost.

   <more to possibly be added>  

See also: 

 

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systems justification

See 

[Content Warning - links to reports on violence/abuse/war]   systems justification;   

 




 

Friday 20 October 2023

PFD - Paranoid Fear of Difference (including possible being different) [Content Warning - language]

This is something that underlies so much of the bigotry against minorities - alleged adults and many chronological children abusing others simply because of difference - which is because the abusers are scared sh**less of being anything other than different, because that might involve them being subjected to the same exclusionary abuse that they them,selves are so willingly and wilfully dishing out to the others ...  

In my opinion, this is the opposite of spiritual / spiritually evolved, and, in fact, qualifies as evil - along with other similar problems that are too often trivialised, such as gossip. 

People with this flaw have, in my opinion, extremely severe personality defects.





Monday 18 September 2023

Saturday 16 September 2023

(aspects of) character [Content Warning - includes disturbing/harmful matters]

I've decided to create this post so I can plonk a few links about various aspects of character here, rather than go searching for links when I want to write about an aspect of character. 

Emotions are a separate matter, which I have started to address at emotions [Content Warning: discussion includes "negative" emotions, harm, and trauma]. That post includes:

 

   <future aspects>   

General posts: 

  • Why won’t/don’t people change?
    Some people, I think, are afraid they might have to grieve at the loss of outdated and wrong ideas - ideas that they are emotionally addicted to. This has to be addressed at an emotional level, ultimately -  addressing the head (thinking) initially is just the doorway to the heart.
  •    <to be added>   

 

Flawed types of character 

 

Character flaws/actions 

 

Neutral/undecided (could be used either way) aspects/concepts/tools, including those that result from "just being human" 

 

Character strengths/actions/tools/concepts 

 

Good types of character