tonglen

This is a Tibetan Buddhist practice where one takes (through a combination of breathing and visualising) into oneself the pain (suffering) of others, and sends them positive energy, and then, when one finds oneself resisting the exercise of tonglen for others, one then focuses of doing that practice for oneself - take out your weariness, compassion fatigue, etc, and send yourself whatever you need, whether that is appreciation, gratitude, healing, a hug, etc. So ... one also learns to be gentle (compassionate) towards oneself.

For more on this, see here (I particularly like the comment that this breaks down fear of pain) and here.

As of the time this definition was written, I’ve touched on this idea in the following posts:
     Post No. 326 - Tonglen  

(I have also used tonglen in an attempt to use Australian's pride in sociableness [which probably goes back to originally Irish hospitality, which is a more mature expression of the current party-pooper-if-you're-not-drunk immaturity] to become welcoming of refugees: breathe in and draw in the xenophobia, and send out with the breath pride in, and desire to be hospitable to all.)